Comments on: Found wife’s hidden vacation video. Do I need to ask?

By: grammarcop

grammarcop — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 21:56:59 +0000

when you say making out, was it the two of them, with each other, or with other guys they didn’t know? if it was with each other, you, my friend are a lucky man. you don’t need to tell her you saw the video, just bring it up casually the next time you are out on the town that you want to see her kiss a woman, see what happens! wow, i’m not really answering your question am i? just letting my own dirty mind go to work. if the things you saw on that video REALLY bother you, I think the best way to bring it up is to start the conversation…"honey, you know i trust you and I did something I’m not proud of, but……." just make sure she knows you weren’t snooping and that you found it by accident. Good luck buddy!!
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By: rogue

rogue — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 21:26:59 +0000

Well it’s obvious your wife has a hidden desire to cut loose once in a while. Should you confront her? Perhaps, but you may want to test the waters first. You may want to role-play about her being alone at a bar and you come in and pick her up. Act like you don’t know each other. Have her wear that dress and get all dolled up like she was on vacation. If she has that wild streak, you may enjoy some fun with it. Of course you may also be surprised at how much attention your wife gets from other men. Like a bees to honey.

If you do talk to her about it, don’t be too accusing or get upset. She will be more open about what happened if she sees that you are not upset. Key here is communication, and communication is the key to trust.
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By: rocket from the office

rocket from the office — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 20:42:59 +0000

what I think is amazing is that guys are always allowed to have bachelor parties go to strip clubs, watch porn and it is NEVER supposed to "mean anything." Well – this doesn’t mean anything etiher. She cut loose – she has fun. No cheating. Relax. Who cares?

Why bring it up – to be like "I know how much fun you had- just so you know." she will get defensive – you will feel like a dick. Whats your point? Are you criticizing something that she did? did somethign piss you off? Then whats the point – to gloat that you found it — to brag that you are nosey enough to find it? or what ? I dont’ get the point of you telling her…really- what do you expect to happen?!

get a grip.
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By: kitkat

kitkat — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 19:53:59 +0000

I would be concerned that if she lied to you about that then what else has she lied about?
You said she was making out? That is cheating. I don’t think you should be feeling bad she should.
Its your choice if you want to tell her, but I don’t think you can fully trust her.
How old are you both? How long have you been married?
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By: justagirl

justagirl — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 19:05:59 +0000

Is this for real? But it sounds like she has a wild side and she let it out. She didn't really cheat on you, unless you consider making out cheating. It depends on the level of openness in your r/ship. Some people wouldn't be bothered, others would. If you can't deal with having a wife with a wild side, maybe you married the wrong woman. Have a conversation with her about it and see what you can work out.
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By: Rae

Rae — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 18:27:59 +0000

That depends on how open your guys relationship is. You don't sound very upset that she did these things. I would tell her that you know but don't be hateful or accusing. Tell her how you found it. You were not snooping right? you were actually looking for something that you thought would be there. Just tell her to clear the air.
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By: L L

L L — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 18:00:59 +0000

It's up to you, if it bothers you and you think something like that will happen again then maybe you should tell her. I don't see why a married woman would want to do that kind of stuff anyway.
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By: bejay

bejay — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 17:53:59 +0000

What are you crazy? What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Leave it alone. If it still bothers you on your 50th anniversary say something then. otherwise forget it and pretend you never saw it.
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By: Quasimodo

Quasimodo — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 17:37:59 +0000

Can of worms. Don't touch. Be satisfied you know and never, ever show your hand.
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By: Syndi

Syndi — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 17:04:59 +0000

too funny Valerie…my thoughts exactly…should at least make it more believable though…some pretty large holes in his story…lol
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