Found wife’s hidden vacation video. Do I need to ask?
We visited my wife’s college friend last month. She married and moved to another country a few years ago and they wanted to get together again. We stayed at their place and one day the friend stole my wife for a day so they could catch up. They were gone all day and most of the night. She said they went shopping and got makeovers, which was obvious. She was in a club kind of dress she would never wear at home…lots more makeup…and a spiky hairstyle. She looked great, but not what I’m used to. May be TMI, but the sex that night was phenomenal. I asked about her day but she didn’t want to talk about it. She laughed and said don’t worry, she didn’t screw anybody. I didn’t think much about it again until yesterday. I was bored and looking for a movie in her stash of chick flicks and fitness videos when I found one that was unmarked. It was two hours of her day and night out. I won’t describe everything in detail, but it started with the makeover and shopping. There was a visit to a nude beach. More shopping. A strip club where they took part in an amateur competition, including lap dances. More shopping…for the club dresses this time. Then finally a dance club. They didn’t record everything, but there was dancing, making out, flashing, and other craziness you would expect. I promised I wouldn’t ask her about that day again, and I feel bad that I found the dvd while I was going through her stuff. Everything is totally normal since we’ve been home, and I wonder if I should tell her what I know and start a major conflict over this. Sorry for the long question.
Maybe let it go if you don’t suspect it will ever happen again. Maybe she had a small "crisis." She’s probably over it. I don’t know, though. They do say that the key to great relationships is openness and honestly. Ahh *sigh* …and come to think of it, it will probably bother u if you don’t ask her about it. I would maybe ask very casually and see what she says. Hopefully she’ll say something to ease you of any worries and then you do need to drop it.
February 3rd, 2010 at 11:35 am
Just let it go.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 12:18 pm
Wow, you are an incredible puuzzzzy.
No wonder your wife likes women.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 12:45 pm
If you trust your wife didnt do anything to defile the marriage then let it go. Otherwise explain to her that you found the video and it makes you feel how you feel.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 12:58 pm
Let it go. She had a little fun with the girls. She did come home afterall, and give you the amazing lovin’…I wouldn’t worry.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 1:32 pm
just ask her to give you a lap dance ! lol
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February 3rd, 2010 at 1:52 pm
You went looking so let it go!!!. unless she had sex with another person then ask the questions. Or just leave her.
good luck.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 2:21 pm
Confront her now and it may lead to a divorce. Don’t say a word and down the road there is going to be a divorce anyway.She’s had a taste of the wild side of life and evidently she loved it. She’s going to be hard to keep on the farm now.The Oracle knows these things.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 3:00 pm
Let it go. Yeah, she might have gotten a little wild with her college friend, but it sounds like some heavy drinking and partying and yeah maybe a little slap and tickle but I seriously doubt that she had sex with someone else.
Unless it’s something that she wants to start doing on a regular basis, probably the best thing is just to let it go.
These things happen in a marriage. She’s home now, you’re back home and things are back to normal and that’s the end of it.
Yes you have a right to dislike it and maybe even be a little bit resentful of it
But really is it worth ruining your marriage over??
I seriously doubt that anything happened bad enough to cause that to happen.
If the shoe was on the other foot, chances are she’d do the same thing as you’re having to do now, which is just to, as I have said, let it go and forget about it.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 3:09 pm
Maybe let it go if you don’t suspect it will ever happen again. Maybe she had a small "crisis." She’s probably over it. I don’t know, though. They do say that the key to great relationships is openness and honestly. Ahh *sigh* …and come to think of it, it will probably bother u if you don’t ask her about it. I would maybe ask very casually and see what she says. Hopefully she’ll say something to ease you of any worries and then you do need to drop it.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 3:44 pm
DUDE!!!! PHENOMENAL SEX!!! I would make her go out every weekend with her slut friend as long as she was coming home to give that kind of sex to you!
Seriously though I would probably be ROYALLY pissed if she was making out with other guys. If it was with the same sex or it doesn’t really bother you that much then I would leave it alone. You wife is not to smart to record her day/night. I would of just kept it all in my memory box!
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February 3rd, 2010 at 4:25 pm
Dude,
Make copies of this and hide them somewhere not in your house.
get all of your finances set, you my man are getting ready to be fried, dyed and layed to the side.
If this is stuff (nude beach and lap dances) she does not do with you ……you have trouble on your hands.
She should not be making out with any one but you.
This is not going to end well.
Save your money, hide it if you can. You are going to need it for the lawyers.
PS, Change your beneficiaries of any life insurance you have on yourself if you have kids to some one whom you trust so they will have some one get the money to take care of them.
Good luck
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February 3rd, 2010 at 5:15 pm
You don’t have to apologize to your wife for finding a video of her acting like a tramp. Confront her, don’t let her turn this around so that YOU feel guilty. You weren’t the one kissing other people or stripping.
I don’t know why confronting her would start a long conflict. She is absolutely without defense. Tell her you’re horrified by her conduct and that you don’t know how you’ll ever be able to trust her out of your sight again. Let her know how disappointed you are in her behavior and that for the sake of your marriage you have to assume that she will never, EVER behave remotely like this again.
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February 3rd, 2010 at 5:44 pm
Let it go!!! unless it bothers you! and why would you say something was something in the movie you did not like?????
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February 3rd, 2010 at 6:08 pm
Talk to her about it…what’s the big deal and why are you so scared…she went a little crazy with a college friend…
This will and has been eating at you and it did happen no sense in putting under the carpet….
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